For the first note, I must say that if you are stuck in an abusive relationship, please seek professional help. For me, there are many parts to this. First is identifying the person. Trusting your own eyes. Making your own judgment. Looking at past actions. Comparing what they are saying vs doing. The other way to make a judgment is how you are feeling when you spend time with them. What does your gut say?
Now the tricky one. When the toxic person is an important part of your life. When you have fallen for their promises and their sweet exterior. How do they make you feel about yourself? Do they want to keep you under their influence? Do they want to keep themselves as the most prominent person in your life? Do they want to limit your freedom?
Now comes the hardest part. The letting go and cutting them out of your life. For the first type of people, they are usually in your life because they are an unavoidable part of your life, like a coworker or a boss. The second type is a close one, a friend, a family member or a partner.
There is no one fit all answer, but there are some things that can be done. For the first thing to do is stop giving them power over your mind all the time. In other words, taking back control over your mind. For that, you must start to find neutrality towards them. Look at them from a different perspective. What are they doing that reminds you something about yourself? What about them makes you feel emotionally vulnerable? What is this emotional lever over you that keeps you in their control? What can you do to give away the mental patterns they have us believing? What therapies or safe houses could help you through this?
Thank you for reading.
