The way you breathe is the way you live. That was what my mentor told me, after he saw me breathe shallowly.
The way a person breathes can tell a lot about them. You can see what their attitude to life is. If a person breathes deeply, they will most likely be more present, more in the moment. They will be relaxed and more in charge of his life. If it is shallow or quick. The person is not letting himself relax, something is holding them back from living with an open heart. That which hold them back could be fear, repressed emotions or depression.
For me, it was my over analyzing and judging everyone around me. I was always looking for signals that told me I’m not wanted or wanted. And the more I looked, the more I saw. I forgot to live in my own being. And every time I felt like I wasn’t wanted, I became more withdrawn from others. I wondered what I am missing, I lived to please. Never asking what I wanted from myself, always asking what others wanted from me. So that I would be liked and loved. Only forgetting how to show love for myself, and with it, I showed the world I don’t deserve love. Because if I don’t show it, how can others know that I’m worthy of it. At the end of the day, it was the realization that I didn’t know what I needed to give myself.
I looked for something from the outside, not knowing it was inside of me the whole time. Wow, that sentence felt awkward to write. I knew that it was like that for happiness and being content with life, but never really thought before that it was with being loved and liked as well.
So, I started doing things I like, started living by putting my growth and wants at the forefront. Of course, taking care of my family is up there, as is sharing love and care. But it needs to be balanced with showing the same towards myself as well. And it needs to be a priory as well. After dealing with myself, the breathing followed. And let me tell you, sometimes a deep breath is the difference between enjoying life and not.
Thank you for reading.
